Characteristics of Women: Who Love Too Much
- Typically, you come from a dysfunctional home in which your emotional needs were not met.
- Having little real nurturing yourself, you try to fill this unmet need vicariously by becoming a caregiver, especially to men who appear, in some way, needy.
- Because you were never able to change your parent(s) into the warm, loving caretaker(s) you longed for, you respond deeply to familiar type of emotionally unavailable men whom you can again try to change through your love.
- Terrified of abandonment, you will do anything to keep a relationship from dissolving.
- Almost nothing is too much, takes too much time, or is too expensive if it will 'help' the man you are involved with.
- Accustomed to lack of love in personal relationships, you are willing to wait, hope, and try harder to please.
- You are willing to take far more than 50 percent of the responsibility, guilt and blame in any relationship.
- Your self-esteem is critically low and deep inside you do not believe you deserve to be happy. Rather, you believe you must earn the right to enjoy life.
- You have a desperate need to control your men and your relationships having experienced little security in childhood. You mask your efforts to control people and situations as 'being
helpful'.
- In a relationship, you are much more in touch with your dream of how it could be than with the reality of your situation.
- You are addicted to men and to emotional pain.
- You may be predisposed emotionally and ofter biochemically to becoming addicted to drugs, alcohol, and/or certain foods (particularly sugary ones).
-By being drawn to people with problems that need fixing, or by being enmeshed in situations that are chaotic, uncertain, and emotionally painful, you avoid focusing on your responsibility to yourself.
- You may have a tendency toward episodes of depression, which try to forestall through the excitement provided by and unstable relationship.
- You are not attracted to men who are kind, stable, reliable and interested in you. You find such 'nice' men boring.
- Having little real nurturing yourself, you try to fill this unmet need vicariously by becoming a caregiver, especially to men who appear, in some way, needy.
- Because you were never able to change your parent(s) into the warm, loving caretaker(s) you longed for, you respond deeply to familiar type of emotionally unavailable men whom you can again try to change through your love.
- Terrified of abandonment, you will do anything to keep a relationship from dissolving.
- Almost nothing is too much, takes too much time, or is too expensive if it will 'help' the man you are involved with.
- Accustomed to lack of love in personal relationships, you are willing to wait, hope, and try harder to please.
- You are willing to take far more than 50 percent of the responsibility, guilt and blame in any relationship.
- Your self-esteem is critically low and deep inside you do not believe you deserve to be happy. Rather, you believe you must earn the right to enjoy life.
- You have a desperate need to control your men and your relationships having experienced little security in childhood. You mask your efforts to control people and situations as 'being
helpful'.
- In a relationship, you are much more in touch with your dream of how it could be than with the reality of your situation.
- You are addicted to men and to emotional pain.
- You may be predisposed emotionally and ofter biochemically to becoming addicted to drugs, alcohol, and/or certain foods (particularly sugary ones).
-By being drawn to people with problems that need fixing, or by being enmeshed in situations that are chaotic, uncertain, and emotionally painful, you avoid focusing on your responsibility to yourself.
- You may have a tendency toward episodes of depression, which try to forestall through the excitement provided by and unstable relationship.
- You are not attracted to men who are kind, stable, reliable and interested in you. You find such 'nice' men boring.
This is just the tip of the iceberg, and the start of another bout of pain and suffering that seems to chase me through this train wreck of a life.
1 comment:
interesting. i have alot of those traits for sure, however, I will leave a man if he treats me poorly. (although I will stay to long trying to work on things) i prefer stability in a man. responsibility is also important. sometimes I waver...the last one for instance. i am pleased with my partner choice, but am learning late how important it is to foster my personal needs.
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